“Take it easy, and trying to rush matters gets you nowhere.”
I often rush a matter to its finality. I am very much a visionary. I live in the future and focus on things done well. But what does this leave for the moment? I most assuredly am not living in the present when I am rushing to capture my envisioned finale.
As far as self efficacy, the above gets the job done, usually well above average, always on time, and if there’s a budget, with some change leftover. This has been my largest contribution to the group. Getting it done well and right.
But where is the fun? Where is the living? Where is taking it easy and living in the present? Isn’t it about the journey and not the destination? I often, although being extremely self efficant and responsible need to learn to ease up and really enjoy the process.
A big example of this process and learning curve is the art of surfing being practiced here at Byron Bay. I cannot simply experience on day 3, my vision of ripping and carving through massive waves without first going with the process of learning how to get up on the board… and stay up for more than 3 seconds. So, I am taking it easy in the white-wash, learning how to how to enjoy the moment, knowing that rushing will get me nowhere.
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When a culture no longer lives within the perceived construct of their original heritage and tradition, what then will be its new legacy? Will it not be a pastiche and conglomeration of cultures world wide? Now that we are moving toward one large global village, there is a very unique meta-culture arising.
This new meta-culture can be considered the death of the past, and the forever shift of cultures previously retained in their bordered microcosms. And one could easily believe that this is the demise of diversity and cultural uniqueness, and with the ever-increasing commoditization, that authentic lifestyle and living will cease.
But I see this new linked heritage creating a new way of living. A style of living that although often confused with the “selling” of culture which I have seen first hand with the Maori and Aboriginal cultures, but that regardless of the process, it is still preservation.
We cannot look to the old and try and fit our growing uni-culture into a shoe that is now too small, but we can embrace the positives of our new emerging lifestyle. A global culture, which although in its newness has made many mistakes, non-the-less preaches tolerance, equality, embraces and pays homage to all races and recognizes the uniqueness of residual culture, family, etc.
“What we call leadership consists mainly of knowing how to follow.”
“Group members genuinely appreciate a leader who facilitates their lives rather than promoting some personal agenda.”
When our dive group first arrived at the shop we all sat down to fill out paper work on our basic health and to become knowledgeable about the basics of diving. Many of us were at different levels in the learning process, and some us were there to get certified. All of this information was pertinent for the dive masters who then followed our lead as we gave them information as to what level we were at with diving knowledge.
Next, we all got into the pool as a group and learned the basics, which we would quickly put to use out on the ocean.
What I keep noticing in the role of leadership is how often a leader follows the morale of the group, its energy, its unique humor. All are essential for effective leadership. In our case, our DM was spot on. She recognized quite early that Brandon was one of the few males on our trip and was constantly cracking a good joke in that direction. She understood how to take control without controlling us.
While under water on our dive, if we got too far away she would hand signal to us, or in one joking instance, she tugged a participant down by their ankle.
She loved her job and in that passion combined with her experience, the trip went as smooth as it could go. She even got us up close enough to a Tiger Shark to pet it! I’m glad she new what was doing. I think too though, she knew our spunky group would really enjoy the experience.
Back on shore after a crazy fun boat ride we helped pull in the boat and clean up shop. Directive and polite instruction, which was not too bossy, got the job done well. What an enjoyable trip.
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Oh how many ways to lead there are. And, in my opinion, a variance to one degree or another is necessary for all the types of leadership roles.
Sometimes when you lead, an autocratic role is essential. I cannot tell you how many times an authoritarian role has been necessary when dealing with young children as a part-time nanny. Complete maham would exist without this powerful role as I have experienced.
However, when children get older, they become more autonomous, it is with pleasure that I have introduced a more democratic leadership role. I ask the kids what their opinions and desires are in decision-making opportunities.
I think in dealing with groups, the democratic role has also been useful to our group in general. A consensus or talked about decision offers no surprise and keeps the peace.
I think, the most challenging but rewarding type of leadership role is that of the abdicate, which I too have experienced with the kids that I nanny and well, on the trip, which sometimes to my own inner humor we all look like the kids I nanny. To give you a clear picture of this role, I have often given the kids that I nanny a choice to pick out a treat. Their only constraints are that they must agree upon only one to share, as to not spoil their dinner, (as any good nanny would do).
To my utter non-surprise at the 100th go-around with this freedom, the kids that I nanny quickly work egocentrically by picking out their treats and trying to convince the other that they too want that treat, even though one might include blueberries which the other absolutely hates. Some how they truly believe that they can convince the other in less than 5 desperate seconds that they too must love blueberries.
I have had to step in a couple times and declare that unless an agreement is made amongst themselves, peaceably that they will get no treat at all, but as time has passed they are now aware of this requirement and now work accordingly. Sometimes they struggle but in the process and in the outcome I can see how this leadership role, no matter the frustration, is an important type leadership role.